I sat staring at myself on my computer screen as the slow ticking of a clock filled the room. These days we’re all familiar with the awkward feeling of waiting for someone else to show up for a virtual meeting. My client was 10 minutes late for our virtual coaching session. Finally, my reflection onscreen flickered, and she appeared.

In talking with a client this week, I had a thought I wanted to share with you. I looked it up and couldn’t find a quote so maybe it’s original, but the question is: Are you the sailor or the sailboat? The person I was talking with kept bringing up things that were out of her control or even her influence.